We all have unresolved fears and traumas from our past. The patterns they create continue to play out in our lives until we shift our consciousness. We project these fears onto the world around us, and they color how we perceive it. A perfect example of this is the story of my friend who believed she saw a dead deer on the road and began to get sick at what she saw, only to realize that what she was actually seeing was a slumped cardboard box with red and green lettering.
It doesn’t take much to get the mind worked up. So many times we take a perception, thought, or belief and deliver ourselves to a place of fear and separation. In awareness, we can move into another possibility…. Acceptance. What if it really was a dead deer in the middle of the road? Could we open to accepting that dead deer, not making its death wrong or right?
Let’s face it, life will often be messy, and messy isn’t wrong.
Along your journey you, and others, will make mistakes. But are they really mistakes? If they ultimately teach you how to be more honoring and authentic to yourself and others then they are perfect. Granted, you can often experience pain, seemingly hundreds of times, before you find your way out of it. You can learn through conflict (which often feels like you are getting your ass kicked) and your experience of fear and trauma can often be a part of your education.
Whenever you fight the reality of what is, you end up unhappy. Acceptance of what is allows you to turn this around immediately. That acceptance equates to freedom. Conflict is inevitable in any committed relationship and that also speaks to the committed journey of coming to know yourself. I am smiling as I recall the innocent ignorance of my journey of coming to know Self. There is no “I have arrived” as near as I can tell, as long as we are in the human body our evolution continues.
In awareness, we can recognize how the mind can create disappointing and even terrifying conclusions. What if we recognized that we can stop using other people to feel bad and that we can recognize it isn’t anyone else’s job to love, value and respect ourselves. It is our job to love, value and respect ourselves.