“I wish you could move in with me.”
—My clients
And now I can (sort of).
Take a minute to imagine your life without…
Nonstop thoughts (monkey mind) running through your mind all day
Bickering with your partner over things you know deep down you don’t even care about
Walking on eggshells around your dad (child, sibling, boss, neighbor, etc) to try and keep him from getting pissed
Feeling like there’s no point to life so why even bother or being too exhausted to function
Holding out for the next vacation, your kid’s next milestone, for when you finally meet ‘the one’ because surely you’ll be happy then, right?!
Wishing you could be someone or somewhere else no matter what room you’re in
Being too afraid to go outside because you can’t control what’s going to happen to you (and isn’t this world filled with so much insanity?)
Filtering all your relationships through your experience with that one ex who gaslit you and treated you like shit for “no reason”
Questioning every decision you make and feeling like you’re going to pick the “wrong” thing every time
Pretending you’re “fine” whenever anyone asks you how you are (even though you’re depressed, anxious, and lonely whether you’re alone or in a room filled with people)
Who would you be without all that shit? How would you spend your time?
Because (and at the risk of sounding like a mid-1990s infomercial playing at 3:17 am) “doing your work” has freed people from all that and more.
What do I mean by “doing your work”?
It’s energetically clearing whatever’s blocking you from tasting, touching, experiencing, and living the Light, Love, and Truth of who you already are.
Like Albert Einstein said, everything is energy. So, whether you understand it or not, what’s stopping you from changing your life is just stuck and held energy from the past.
And since energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be transformed, doing your work means taking the negative and non-beneficial energies from the past and transforming them so they no longer impact you today.
Think of it like this:
If you don’t have peace with that time your mom read your diary in front of the whole family or your teacher laughed at you for getting a problem wrong and the whole class joined in, it’s still impacting you today.
You can pretend it doesn’t matter or that “the past is in the past.” But ALL the moments you can’t think about without cringing or wanting to forget, the things that make you wanna crawl out of your skin or your throat close up and your stomach roil, don’t just go away because you want them to.
The past is why you can’t have a voice at work or find a partner who doesn’t choose their mother over you. It’s why you freeze any time someone gets pissed at you or why you spend all your time working your ass off and never feeling appreciated.
I call that being triggered.
And, while being triggered feels like shit, it isn’t a bad thing. It’s just showing you what’s coming up for you to heal.
Some people live their whole lives as one big ball of triggers without ever digging into the pain and healing it. There’s nothing wrong with that. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
When you do your work, you dig into the past, the triggers, the pain, the misunderstandings and trauma you don’t even know are there and finally, finally, FINALLY clear it so it no longer kicks your booty. You get to keep the lessons and let go of the pain and struggle.
That changes your life in ways you can’t even imagine right now. (Just ask the people I work with.)
Read one member’s story of where doing your work can take you
Before doing my work, I was a miserable asshole. I sort of knew it, but I also had absolutely no idea just how deep the patterns ran. Like, I’d use anything to be disappointed: not having a boyfriend, living at home with my mother, my new pair of pants ripped… it didn’t matter, I’d find something to be upset about. And if there wasn’t anything, I’d make shit up because I was so comfortable in that vibration (and then I’d use that to be disappointed too🤣).
Now (after close to five years of intensely digging in and making this a priority), I can honestly say:I’m happier than I’ve ever been.My relationships are stronger (and way more real).I appreciate my life and how I get to spend my time.I’m so much more fun to be around (and even funnier).I don’t need to figure everything out or defend myself over made up arguments.I feel safer and more comfortable in my body. I’m more willing to feel my feelings without making them wrong (which I didn’t even know I wasn’t doing before).I’m able to accept other people exactly as and where they are, so they actually like being around me more.And I don’t feel trapped in my life, like everyone else knows something I don’t, or like I’ll never fit in. All of which to say, I’m NOT the same person I was when I started this journey. (So much so, even other people notice how different I am.) And even though I thought I was self-aware and so much farther along and realizing I’m not has been hard (iykyk), I wouldn’t trade doing my work for anything. It’s truly what I’m here to do. I encourage anyone struggling with anything to give this a try because it really does work. I’m living proof.”— Rebecca
Doing your work boils down to:
Becoming aware of and allowing ALL your feelings
Taking personal responsibility for those feelings, and
Energetically processing the past so it stops wreaking havoc on your relationships, your choices, and your mental health
In other words, when you’re triggered, instead of blaming everyone else for your feelings and staying stuck, doing your work means getting curious about why you’re feeling the way you do (in Truth).
It’s giving yourself the space to feel those feelings (without automatically making yourself wrong).
How do you do your work?
And, it’s bringing the past pain into present time, calling back your energies from all the times you felt this way before, cutting cords with relationships and patterns that aren’t working for you anymore, and more.
For example, if you shut down when your boss puts one more thing on your already full plate (and it’s due yesterday), but you can’t tell her to ask someone else, doing your work DOESN’T mean plastering on a fake smile, telling yourself you should be grateful to just have a job, and running yourself into burnout every 6 weeks like clockwork.
It’s getting radically honest with your feelings instead of shoving them away (even if you don’t tell her or anyone else) and processing them as they come up.
When you do, you’ll learn to have your own back, set clearer boundaries, ask for what you need, say the thing you’ve never had the courage to before, or find a new job that does appreciate you—without any of the drama, nervousness, guilt, or frustration you used to feel.
It sounds so simple,
why am I still stuck?
Because doing your work goes beyond a mental understanding.
It’s not about checking things off a list and pretending you’re fine. It’s truly facing and processing everything your ego doesn’t want to touch.
Which means your ego will do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to keep you from feeling the pain from your past. Including, but not limited to:
Getting triggered in your close relationships and somehow wanting to fall back into codependent patterns as soon as you leave them
Blaming everyone and everything else for your feelings even when the people and circumstances change completely
Projecting your feelings onto “safe” places (like politics, garbage on the side of the road, or where your neighbor parks their car) so you don’t have to get angry at the real stuff
Pretending you’re happy even though you’re one stubbed toe, stain on the carpet, or $0.50 overdue library fine away from a complete breakdown
Starting a million and one projects (audiobooks, tv shows, hobbies, side hustles, etc) whenever you have a spare moment because you need something to focus on and you don’t feel safe in your own mind
Purchasing a bunch of other courses, programs, guides, and books that keep you busy but also don’t make you unpack the core pain so you keep circling it forever, never fully diving in
To your ego, NOT going “there” is what keeps you safe. In Truth, that’s what’s keeping you stuck.
Change can feel scary because you’ve never done it before, but when you’re courageous enough to dig in, your past pain doesn’t have to be a life sentence. Even if you’ve already tried everything else you could possibly think of and it didn’t work, you never have to stay stuck. That’s the power of doing your work.
Luckily, you don’t have to do your work alone
Healing is a journey. And there are a bajillion different ways to do it (ok, maybe that’s an exaggeration, but you get the picture).
No one way is “right”—but if you want to move through your shit quicker, sooner, faster, there’s no better way than to do your work with me (and, yes, I’m biased, but I’m all about efficiency).
That’s because I’ve spent so much time doing my own work. I’m now a clear channel to bring you the Light, Love, and Truth you need to cut through the noise, come back online, and stop letting your ego run the show unchecked.
With me as your guide, it’s like going from navigating a pitch black room you’ve never been in before using only a laser pointer to turning on an overhead light.
How, might you ask, do you do your work with me???
Introducing
A self-paced online healing community where you’ll have me in your back pocket whenever you need to reset your nervous system, quiet the chaos, or shift out of the pain
I say “it’s like having me move in with you” because it’s literally an app on your phone chock full of meditations, talks, breathwork, workshops, and guided “prescriptions” for specific issues, you can listen to 24/7 on demand no matter what’s coming up.
What’s included when you join?
Every month we focus on a different theme or entry point into The Work, what’s triggering you, and how to process it. You’ll get a replay of a live call discussing the theme that includes an activity walking you through an exercise, meditation, or breathwork related to the current topic.
Additionally, there’s one live group coaching call on Zoom (or replay if you can’t join us in person) and a remote energy transmission or “energetic reset” with a Facebook Live followup.
You’re also held in a “Divine Container” all month long, which means that I’m working on you energetically to support your healing and transformation by helping keep your Soul grounded in your body and clearing blocks that pop up.
As soon as you join, you’ll have immediate access to everything inside our community. Including:
An app hosted on the Circle platform you can download to your phone or use on your desktop
A Transformation Vault filled with meditations, talks, breathwork, workshops, and “prescriptions” broken down by past themes and triggers (with new videos being added every month)
Replays of past calls and the schedule/links to our upcoming calls so you can add them directly to your calendar
A live “feed” that updates in real time as new things are added
Inside the Transformation Vault is an Essential Toolkit with specific meditations and energy transmissions to help you:
Call your energies back from past experiences you don’t have peace with
Face your fears (and finally release them)
Anchor into Love
Heal trauma from the past
Give your inner child the Love you always needed
Cut cords with patterns and relationships that no longer serve you
Align your Soul with your body so you can be more present with whatever’s going on around you (instead of frozen or shut down)
And more!
(And don’t worry if you don’t really know what any of that means, every meditation has a built-in description that tells you when you need it and how to use it.)
How this is different
We’ve all been sold a bunch of bullshit a time or two.
We’ve invested time, energy, and maybe more money than we’d care to admit into courses, programs, therapy, and promises for “a totally new you” that didn’t pan out.
That’s because knowing better doesn’t mean doing better.
It’s because no one else can do your work for you (no matter how many “easy to follow” steps they’ve broken it down into), they can only be a guide. And, they can only guide you as far as they’ve gone themselves (meaning, if they haven’t done their work, they can’t really help you face your core issues either).
This work is different because it connects you back to the Highest Enlightened Awareness of YOUR Soul (the part of you who knows your magnificence) so you’re empowered in ways you can only dream of right now.
It’s different because…
With me as your guide, you’re safe to dig into anything from the past that still makes you sob uncontrollably, freeze, shut down, run away, pretend it didn’t happen, or want to escape. Nothing is too much. No pain too great. I’ve got you.
It’s efficient. You don’t have to circle the issue for decades, getting triggered at every family reunion, parent teacher conference, or used book sale without recognizing what’s really playing out (hint: if you’re triggered, it’s your shit).
You’ll learn to trust yourself (even after years of being taught not to) instead of giving your power away to me.
It’s not about diagnosing you, rehashing the trauma from your past, or making you wrong at every turn. It’s about looking at the energetic patterns playing out, bringing awareness to them, and processing past pain so you can feel neutral instead of triggered whether you’re thinking about the past or facing the same sort of trigger today.
Whether or not you’re aware of the misunderstandings, trauma, held emotions, BS lies, or stories you’re playing out (and often you aren’t), you’ll keep chipping away at them every time you show up, which means your life will get better, your relationships will improve, and you’ll feel less triggered on the daily—AUTOMATICALLY.
I’m not here to change you. I literally can’t judge you, I Love you exactly as you are. AND, if there’s anything you want to change about your life, I can help you do that through doing your work…if you’re courageous enough to face the pain from your past.
And all of this happens whether you understand what’s going on or not. (In fact, the more you can let go of what you think you know, the quicker, sooner, faster you’ll make a shift.)
I’m not for everyone
(and I don’t want to be)
Not everyone wants to do their work.
Not everyone wants to do their work with me.
And that’s ok.
To quote a genius:
“Everyone’s jealous of what you’ve got.
No one’s jealous of what you had to do to get it.” ~Taylor Swift to her dancers on the very last Eras Tour
And to bring that concept into my world, when you do your work, you open yourself up to a life most people dream of, but very few people are willing to create for themselves.
When my daughter Amy died in my arms at 9 days old, she blew up my world as I knew it. I couldn’t go back to the way things were before. I couldn’t unsee the Truths I’d been running from forever. Even when it took me a heck of a long time to unpack the misunderstandings, BS lies, traumas, and held emotions I didn’t even know were there, because of Amy, I couldn’t NOT do my work.
But doing my work was also some of the hardest work I’ve ever done in my life.
It required facing past pain (not just my daughter’s death, but being raised by a raging asshole, being sexually abused at 10 years old and never being allowed to talk about it again, and everything in between).
Diving headfirst into the pain from the past isn’t everyone’s cup of tea (or home-brewed Americano, if you’re like me ☕️).
But it IS how you create that life you’ve been dreaming about.
And if that’s your thing too, doing your work with me just makes sense. Because I’ve done so much of my work, I can help you move through your stuff quicker, sooner, faster.
That said, here’s your trigger warning (or, why you wouldn’t want to work with me):
I look at things energetically (without ego) so I know when you’re lying—even if you’re lying to yourself.
I don’t take anything personally and I don’t take on your emotions. You can try to blame me for the pain because I’m the “authority figure” in the room, get pissed I’m not who you want me to be, or judge the shit out of me for owning a yacht, but I won’t take any of that on.
I’m not here to “make” you happy. I tried that with my ex-husband for 23 of the 27 years we were married and it didn’t work.
I have my own back. I say what I’m inspired to. And I am uniquely capable of interrupting your pain with a well-placed, loving joke. Meaning, you’re likely to laugh through a sob or try to hold back the chuckle while wearing your pissy pants.
I’m not here to judge you. I’m here to Love you. And that level of Love can be uncomfortable for you if you’re not open to receiving it.
Still here? Great! Hit the button below to start your journey.
Is this for you?
You’ve spent your whole life building walls, hiding behind masks and identities, and curating the perfect resume to impress everyone you meet. That’s what makes it so hard to do your work on your own.
Who are you without all that?
Who are you without anxiety? Without the story that you’re unlovable? Without making sure everyone around you is happy before you can be happy? Without being the victim? Without knowing exactly who you are and how you fit into every room you enter?
I say, let’s find out.
And if you do too, The Healing Essentials is for you. It’s for you if you’re ready to embrace the unknown, to courageously feel ALL your feelings, to stop playing out codependent patterns, to learn to Love yourself.
It’s for you if…
You’re sick of feeling tired down to your Soul
You’ve ever been called an old Soul or too sensitive
You’re unhappy despite everything about your life looking good “on paper”
You have a nagging feeling there has to be more to life
You’ve been to therapy so long you feel like you should have your own degree by now, but you still don’t feel better
You’ve got strange physical pain that won’t go away no matter how many massages or chiropractor appointments you schedule
It feels like everyone must know something you don't about how to do life and you never received the manual
You’re tired of blaming everyone else for your unhappiness and waiting for them to change
You want happier, healthier relationships that don’t make you question your sanity
Read another member’s story of where doing your work can take you
"For me, my childhood trauma manifested into significant physical pain. Usually my left hip, but then it would move to other parts of my body (it also impacted me mentally & emotionally). I did this for a few years in sessions with Rita. It was intense!
According to Rita, I encountered and released trauma held in my body from previous lifetimes, as well as ancestral pain, and from my childhood. The pain seemed to be a bottomless pit. I stuck with it because I felt the relief my healing work was providing.
During one session, I had the most profound release of pain and a huge shift. I finally was able to name my deepest childhood trauma. It feels like I have finally taken off a 100-pound backpack filled with trauma that I’d carried for most of my life. So far the physical pain is gone (however I am a 61 year old woman so I still have pain-lol).
This shift has given me so much clarity and space. I am very proud of how I survived such a trauma filled childhood (love my warrior spirit). I have compassion for myself for all the less-than desirable behaviors I exhibited as I moved through my adult life in survival mode. For the first time ever, I can feel what it is like to not be completely filled with trauma and pain.
I’m looking forward to the next chapter of my healing journey. The possibilities seem endless."
—TammyFAQs
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A: $160 a month. You can join anytime and cancel anytime, and if you want a 25% off coupon for your first month, use code ITSMYTURN at checkout.
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A: Do you? Or do you plaster on a fake smile, convince yourself you don’t care that your boss once again took credit for your work or your spouse sided with their mother over you, and go about your life as if it “doesn’t matter” until you end up a sobbing mess on the bathroom floor at 3 am or you absolutely explode in anger?
If you pretend it doesn’t bother you when your mom gives you the silent treatment or you aren’t afraid everyone’s talking shit about you behind your back, that doesn’t mean you aren’t bothered or afraid. It means you’re wearing blinders, lying to yourself, and holding onto the pain keeping you stuck.
Because if you aren’t honest about your feelings, if you don’t let yourself feel them (yes, ALL of them), they’ll come out one way or another, whether you want them to or not. That’s why doing your work is so powerful: you heal the reasons those emotions keep coming up so they don’t control you anymore.
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A: Here’s my favorite definition of fine: Fucked up, Insecure, Needy, Erratic. It’s what your ego says when it’s trying to convince you not to face the pain from your past because it thinks facing that pain isn’t safe. It doesn’t know that on the other side of digging into it is the freedom, peace, joy, and Love you’ve always wanted.
But, as I always say, you don’t have to do your work. If you like what you’re doing, you can keep doing it. If not, now’s the perfect time to change.
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A: You shouldn’t do anything you’re not inspired to do. But I’ve done so much of my work that I don’t have any judgment to bring to you (there’s only Love). So people tell me things all the time they’ve never felt safe enough to tell anyone else. They inherently know I can handle anything they throw my way and support them through healing it.
If you want to try that on for yourself, I’ve got you.
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A: Yes (bet you weren’t expecting me to say that). Doing your work has helped people do all that (and more).
How? By healing the blocks, misunderstandings, held emotions, traumas, and BS lies from the past (that you often don’t even know are there) keeping you from the abundance, joy, freedom, Love, connection, and peace you’ve always wanted. When you heal the past, your now gets better and better—automatically.
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A: You can do that. But The Healing Essentials will help you go deeper and keep making shifts even beyond individual sessions.
In other words, it’ll be more efficient, take less time, and be way more fun to do your work here than on your own or with just a few sessions whenever you’re triggered.
You don’t even have to come to the live calls, you’ll still benefit from being worked on energetically, from all the other tools you have access to, and from watching the replays. How? By hanging out in the higher vibrations, listening to other people work through their core issues (which teaches you about yourself in new and interesting ways), and hearing Truth (instead of the lies you’re fed on the daily).
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A: You’ll get a confirmation email in your inbox right away. You can follow the instructions to login to the community and dig in immediately. After that, you’ll get a series of emails welcoming you and helping you navigate the content. You’ll be guided to the heavy-hitting meditations to support whatever’s coming up for you. And, I always recommend you join us for the live group calls to get support specific to you.
P.S. If you ever get lost or can’t find the confirmation email, you can get to the login page at community.ritahenry.com. Don’t forget you can also download the Circle app on your phone and access The Healing Essentials that way.
Also, if you run into any issues or need support, feel free to email info@ritahenry.com to ask!
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A: Here’s the link.
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