You can use relationships to heal and grow or to lose yourself. The choice is yours. What are you bringing to your relationships (including the one you have with yourself)? Are you stuck believing you need another person to love you in order to feel safe? Are you desperately trying to do whatever it takes to make the other person happy? Every relationship is an opportunity to lose yourself, or to lean in, heal, and grow. The only difference is the intention and focus you bring to it.

Pain is super common. And it sucks. But you don’t have to live with it forever. Doing your work can support relieve mental, emotional, and physical pain.

Happiness and comfort are not the same thing, but that’s actually ok. When you get uncomfortable doing your work, that means it’s working! Here’s what I mean.

When you follow the same 3 steps as everyone else to try and heal, you’ll get the same generic results. That’s what makes doing your work so different: it’s catered to what’s coming up for YOU to heal.

Your inner child has the wisdom you’ve been looking for. But you were taught to ignore everything they had to say, so you stopped listening to them. It’s time to take back your power and inner knowing. It’s time to pay attention to yourself.

What can you do when you’re triggered? (Meaning, when you’re spirialing in anxiety, frozen in fear, overwhelmed, lying to yourself about how you really feel, feeling abandoned and rejected, or so depressed you can barely get out of bed.)

Leaning into your triggers and clearing your held emotions will create the space you need to stop trying to control their experience of life

It’s no one else’s job to understand your heart. It’s your job. Sharing your feelings is an essential part of your growth, as silence is one way to avoid intimacy.

The childhood belief that you’re not enough was never true. You are enough. You are love, whether you know it or not. It’s your essence. It’s time to deprogram the BS “not-enoughness” beliefs from your past that keep you stuck.

Walking on eggshells is a survival technique you learned from your past.And while it may seem like it’s helping de-escalate situations and prevent people in your life from getting angry, it’s not dealing with the core issues—and it limits you.

Whether you’re surrounded by other people celebrating or alone in your home, YOU are the party!That means you can have fun no matter what’s going on around you—if only you choose to.

If you’ve spent your whole life believing you have to hide the parts of you that don’t always feel good, you’ll have a hard time bringing compassion and understanding to them.

Doing your work requires getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. Asking yourself questions and feeling into your feelings is essential for intimacy with yourself.

Believing you can only be happy after you’ve gotten that thing you’ve been chasing is painful.

When you fight what’s happening by making it wrong or saying “it shouldn’t be happening,” you’ll get your ass kicked.

It’s OK to have fears.It’s OK to feel absolutely shut down.It’s a natural part of life.

Are you a worthy and kind judge? If you want to learn to accept other people for exactly who and where they are, you’ve got to start by looking at yourself.

Moving through life like a speeding bullet without having time… taking time… making time… to connect with yourself… is just plain dumb.

We can’t have loving relationships with others when we’re living disconnected from ourselves. Self knowledge is self love.

All relationships you have are a reflection of your relationship with yourself. Do you know that when you are looking in the mirror you are looking at your very best friend? You are!